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After viewing my last post I realised it was missing something

Cheeeese:)

All at once

 I listen to music all the time, (including right now!) and I know how important it can be to find a song with lyrics  you can relate to, I am always looking for music that is about something I am going through.

e.g.- if I am in an extra hyper/strange mood I will play loads of cheesy music or a theme tune or two lol

But

The point of this post was to put up some of the songs I think relate to Anxiety or depression, but not songs that are going to make you feel worse, songs that will make you think about your problems but are also motivational and inspirational.

 And a kind of depressing one for those who want it!

Anxiety

ANXIETY!!!!!

Everybody gets anxious, it's a natural reaction to stressful situations. However, what causes a stress response in one person, may not affect the other person, and visa versa. 

The anxiety is sometimes caused by us linking a situation to a bad feeling or mood. We do this because at some stage in our lives we experienced the feeling and situation both at the same time; sometimes the situation caused the bad feeling (operant conditioning) and sometimes the feeling and situation were unrelated but our mind connects the two by association (classical conditioning).

An example of classical conditioning could be: 

You were at school in an English lesson and told you had to prepare and give a presentation in front of your whole class by yourself. This didn't bother you, apart from the extra work when you got home that evening. 

You return to school the next day prepared for your presentation and confident about the work you have done. It comes to your turn to speak and you give what you think, is a clear, informative presentation, (even making a few successful jokes). But, mid-speech, you hear sniggering at the back of the class room, and this spreads quickly in proximity and decibels. Soon the whole class is roaring with laughter. You become disheartened by the time they calm down and find your self whispering the rest of your presentation, forgetting the point of what you are saying.

You receive your grade and don't do badly, but are convinced you did an awful job and embarassed youself, after all, the whole class were laughing at you...... weren't they?

Well, the truth is, they weren't laughing at you at all, they were passing a joke around about the teacher. But you associate the laughing majority, with you, the presentation giving minority, and assume they must be laughing at you. 

This scenario shows that by classical conditioning we can create a fear, an association, that could potentially haunt us and cause anxiety for a long time, causing us to avoid certain situations.

We are ALL self conscious, which is why a lot of us usually perceive any kind of negative energy around us, as directed at us, and of course we think it is deserved.

There may be many reasons why we develop fears, but in any situation like the example above, there is mainly one root cause...

Low self esteem.

HI

Hi.. 

This is quite wierd, I have never written a blog before and I forgot to tell anybody who comes across this what it's all about!

I basically mainly just want to talk about personal issues, anything really.

But as I suffer from it myself I want to talk about anxiety, and I know i'm a hypocrite, because I will give advice I can't always abide by myself. 

BUT, come on we all do that. 

And if you are going through something difficult, you will almost always know what you should do, more than anyone else, but doing it is always the part we can't follow through with.

Therefore I want to share my experience (not that that's a good thing lol) on issues such as anxiety.  

If I can't do it, hopefully I can help others in similar situations, and eventually pluck up the courage to change my life too.

xxxx :) xxxx